When the doctor told Dan and I that we had less than 1% chance of conceiving on our own naturally, we did not “hope for a miracle.” We talked, we prayed, and we made the financial decision to go with IVF as the one and only chance we would have for me to carry a baby.
It was a dark and difficult time when every needle, every blood test, every shot, every pill, every internal exam, every modified diet, every time someone else exclaimed they were pregnant or trying, every time someone told me “I know what you are going through,” every time someone said, “well you only wanted one baby, and you have one embryo left,”…
I was on Season 10, Episode 11, “I’m Okay, You’re Defective.” Rebecca sends Sam to her fertility doctor since they have been trying for months to get pregnant with no such luck. Rebecca finds out she is fertile and points the blame on Sam.
Men of IVF this is not something to hide from. There isn’t just one way to become a father & tough topics make the world stronger, and you sir, are an IVF warrior!
In vitro fertilization is complicated. It needs to be talked about. And not just at the grownup’s table. Children need to know about IVF and that it’s OK to ask questions. Because if it is going on with someone they trust, knowing can help in so many ways.
Insurance played a tremendously huge portion of IVF being attainable for Dan and I. But, we would be bluffing if we didn’t say that it was a huge risk on us and a big hit on our wallets for the portions that were not covered. Was it worth it? I lose my breath thinking about life if we had gone a different route.
Infertility is extremely personal. It gets you right in the pit of your stomach and the center of your heart. Yet, when I meet women and men who are experiencing IVF, it’s as if an instant bond is made. A friend for life. Someone who was a complete stranger is now looked at in a different light because they, too, know what it is like to go through the impossible.
Stuff is just stuff to me. People and memories are worth holding onto. However, there is one item that seems to be throwing my logic of stuff off track. You see the item is, well, not pretty. It’s plastic, cheap plastic, at best. But, I cannot imagine life without it.
The inspiration behind the I’m Very Ferris series, Ferris Jobs is the rainbow baby boy of Tess and Dan. Born in April 2018, Ferris was the last embryo transfer and the exciting result of faith, love and science. A baby with special gifts and talents, Ferris is what...
Infertility. You can read about it in medical documents and social media posts, but if you want to know what it’s really like, talk to someone who has gone through it and get their honest feedback. Me, well, I am glad you asked. When my husband and I were first...